A lot of people say the first year of marriage is the hardest. To be honest, Katie and I didn’t experience that. Sure, there was an adjustment period, getting used to each others day-to-day routines, but before long it felt like we had always been married.

The second year has been even better than the first! There were a few rough spots, and some circumstances that were out of our control, but we handled it all and stayed on course.

But now, two weeks before we enter our third year of marriage, I have a confession to make. I have been a crappy husband.

I don’t know what it was about this weekend, but there was a heightened tension in our marriage. What I do know is that I have been selfish, on edge, passive, aggressive, passive-aggressive, and just plain crap.

Katie, my love, I am so sorry.

I’ve had a cold for what seems like weeks. But that’s not an excuse. Work has been challenging. But that’s not an excuse. There are a thousand things that I could blame, but I only have myself and my selfishness. The past three days I have chosen to serve myself rather than my wife, and now I see the horrible effect it has.

Honestly, I don’t know how a majority of the world does it. Were it not for God showing me my selfishness and giving me hope and grace to correct it, I would still be pouting in the corner. And then our marriage would be hard.

Kathryn, you are my love and joy. I can’t wait to get into year three!